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Do you believe in Fate?

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So do you? I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I’m not religious in any way but do feel that there is a purpose for everything and sometimes things are meant to happen in a certain way.

When I first moved to Northampton I knew no one, apart from the people I worked with, and unlike a lot of people, I didn’t really socialise with my work colleagues.

I got on the popular dating app Plenty Of Fish, and found the girl (now fiancee) I’m due to marry later in the year. (Coincientally, I have a history of dating apps. See What’s wrong with online dating? and Goodbye POF, hello Match.com)

As a part of meeting my girlfriend Annabelle, I now have several new friends that I wouldn’t have met otherwise. If I hadn’t hit up the dating apps that may never have happened. It is likely I would have found someone but would have taken much longer. I’m generally a fairly shy person and at the time certainly not very outgoing.

I’d always wanted to get a cat but it wasn’t until meeting Annabelle that she went out and got one… and so on and so forth.

I’d probably still be sitting with a living room full of car parts and an undecorated house too if I hadn’t gotten into a relationship so for those reasons I can only be thankful.

The same goes for the journey with my Mazda. The number of new friends and events I’ve been to and involved with since 2013 is tremendous. All because of one purchase on eBay following a night out at the pub. Hurruh for Dutch courage and trigger happy bidding fingers!

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I honestly can’t remember whether I’ve written about my experiences with dating sites or not, but I thought I’d write a little something now.

I have been a member of Plenty of Fish for some time. It’s a free dating site with a paid subscription service, but much more focus is on the free side. Many of the features are in fact available for free, search, “Meet Me” and full messaging facilities are all free. Unfortunately this also means that you get a lot of people who sign up to use it, give it a week, and then don’t use it. Many don’t remove their account again so this leaves searchable inactive profiles in the search results.
It also means many don’t take the site seriously. I have found some girls on there that were the right match, I guess you could say, but unfortunately it didn’t work out.
For the time spent sending messages and not getting anywhere enough is enough.

I have paid for a subscription dating site, welcome Match.com, probably one of the more well known subscription dating sites. Unlike POF, many of the features are restricted if you don’t pay. You don’t even get messaging functionality. So, this is a go. I’ve just bought into a year sub to a dating site. If I’m not married by next year I’ll sue them…. only joking… or am I?!

Watch this space!

What’s wrong with online dating?

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Many people seem to have a ‘thing’ about online dating, seem to think that it’s a bit of a joke… but the fact is it’s very popular and funnily enough we are in the 21st Century and if you think about it it’s a very logical idea.

This is the Internet-enabled age. We’re all using ‘i’ devices and nearly all of us are connected when on the go so it makes a lot of sense to use online dating, not necessarily instead of going out and meeting people, and socialising, but as an aid. It certainly and most probably gets you talking to people you wouldn’t necessarily meet or who are outside of your friendship groups.

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I, for one, have used Plenty of Fish (POF) for a while and to some success in that I was dating someone for a while … and as that is a 100% success rate for me personally, why not give it a go. I have tried other sites, but without paying for it (which I refuse to do) this is probably the best free site. Check it out at www.pof.com

Hopefully, this may change your mind about online dating. It’s certainly used by a lot more people than you think, and I wouldn’t put it past a lot of your friends to have used online dating as an alternative in the past or something they are using now. As a result of me using it, I’ve also got a few of my friends using it with success.